Time wasters. Oh boy. Is there anything Dommes love to complain about more? Throughout all this redundant bitching of the inevitable, I thought maybe a few of you who are smart enough to read might benefit from a mini tutorial on how to approach a domme online. Not just for her sake, but for your own (unless you have a fetish for being blocked or gaining minimal attention, please disregard.)
Successful Dommes spend a lot of their time making money. Any time spent talking to someone who is not paying them, is time they could have spent getting paid. The guys who approach dommes online who aren't paying immediately, generally fall into consistently reoccurring categories that we deal with over and over and over again;
1. They want to compliment and/or thank you
2. They want to ask you a question that could have been figured out on their own
3. They want permission to buy something that's available online for anyone to purchase
4. They want to chit chat
The problem is, to the individual sub, none of these things seem like that big of a deal. How could sending a quick message to say "thank you," be a big waste of her time? Simple; because it's all cumulative. Were not just dealing with you. We're dealing with incessant numbers of "you." For the Domme sitting online working and signed onto any kind of messenger service, it's a matter of filtering through repetitious number of idiots doing one of the 4 things above. It's never ending. Most Dommes (hell, most people in general) have a very short tolerance for dealing with the same shit. You may "just" be messaging her to ask a quick question, but if you're the millionth person to ask her that question that day, you're already dealing with her at the end of her fuse and may find yourself blocked before you know it.
Do you really want to be lumped together with the vast majority of these fools? Don't you want to make an impression and stick out from the crowd? Here's my advice:
1. Keep compliments/thank you for email. Furthermore, make them interesting. If all you're going to say is "thanks" or "you're amazing," don't bother. We hear that shit all the time and after a while it's just background noise at best, an annoyance at worst. If you want your gratitude to be noticed and appreciated, be detailed and specific as to how the Domme has affected you. Put some time and thought into it and, if you can, mention something especially pathetic or embarrassing that might amuse her as well. EDIT: Actually, I changed my mind. compliments/thank yous are best left in public, such as twitter or the commenting area of a Domme's blog. That way, your positive feedback is seen by others and can serve as promotion for her.
2. Do your fucking homework. If you have a question, there's a huge possibility its already answered on the Domme's website. You know, the one she worked her ass off for so she didn't have to sit around answering the same damn questions over and over again? If you have a question that's not answered on her site, its probably none of your business and/or you're falling into category #4.
3. Don't ask permission for retarded things. My god. If you don't know by now that all we're interested in is your money, then please for the love of god just swallow a bullet right now. We didn't create clips or turn on our phone lines so we can sit around online all day and grant permission to every individual person who wants to purchase it. It's for sale for a reason, and that reason is not to take up even more of our time.
4. Send the domme a small tribute before attempting to chat with her. Yes, you heard right. A small tribute will easily suffice with emphasis put on "before attempting to chat." Don't ask her "how" to tribute, or else you're falling back into the #2 category of reoccurring time wasters. Any Domme smart enough to throw together even the most amateur websites has a tribute area. If you want to stick out from the crowd, it's as simple as tributing without saying a damn word before hand. Why? Because that's so ridiculously rare it's not even funny. Most idiots online can't resist saying *something* before sending a tribute. The problem is the more you talk without paying, the shorter the fuse gets. Or like I said before, if a domme has just dealt with plethora of 1s, 2s, 3s and 4s, you may get blocked just for saying "hello." So, put your best foot (i.e. wallet) forward. If you're serious about serving or getting to know a domme, a mere $20 tribute to chat a bit is not going to break the bank. If it is, then you're not worth her time anyway. But keep in mind a tribute is a tribute; which means nothing should be expected in return for it. It is not a guarantee you'll get a little attention, it just puts you at far greater odds.
Finally,
5. Get to the point. If you have intentions of paying for a service that requires her active attention, for the love of god say so immediately. Again, the more you talk without paying, the shorter the fuse. So don't waste everyone's time with "hello" "how are you?" "Im a big fan" "you're so hot" "I love your clips" until you finally get to "can I buy cam time?" Make your purchasing request the first thing you say and I guarantee you everything will run a lot smoother and better for both parties. I've half-assed plenty of cam shows with guys who tested my patience before hand with idle chit-chat or an ongoing number of questions they could have figured out themselves. Trust me, I will knock your socks off on cam the sooner you pay me and the more humbly you present your fetishes/weaknesses. On the flip side, however, if you ask to buy cam and I say, "no," the sooner you fuck off the better. "No" does not mean "beg," or "annoy me until I say yes." In fact, the more you plead with me to give you what you want after I've explicitly denied it, the more you demonstrated to me that you don't take what I have to say seriously and the sooner you are yet again, blocked.
So that's my advice, for whatever it's worth. I know this entry will hardly put a dent on the number of guys who will continue to waste mine and everyone else's time, and that's fine, the blocked button is not difficult to utilize. But for those who took the time to read this, I promise you can benefit from my advice. If any Dommes would like to add something in addition to this, feel free to comment.
Thank you!
This is something EVERY sub should keep in mind when approaching a Domme for the first time. Every sub. Every time.
Thank you!
This is something EVERY sub should keep in mind when approaching a Domme for the first time. Every sub. Every time.
This is something EVERY sub should keep in mind when approaching a PROFESSIONAL Domme or one out to make a buck. I won’t say Financial Domme because there are plenty out there who actually don’t mind talking to someone when NOT getting paid.
My advice to a any sub whould be to read up on the domme their interested in before hand to know if they are looking for the same thing. Your right that they shouldnt have to bother you with questions they can easily find on your site/blog etc.
Just sad to me when you read stuff like this were someone is upset that you actually send them a complement and they get offended because your “wasting them time and costing them money”. But I guess when it is your “business” time is money.
Compliments are just stating the obvious. I’m not “offended” by them anymore than I would be offended by people constantly telling me everyday that the sky is blue (while Im at work.) It’s simply annoying and pointless after a while.
HAHA different perspective I guess. I don’t get alot of compliments so there always appreciated.
I couldn’t agree more. Because, what Ceara is saying is that there is not just 1 of you complimenting and ass kissing.. there is a sea of people complimenting and or ass kissing.. and well sometimes nothing said is better than something said, if it keeps us from having to sift through countless emails and offlines ( that yes.. it tends to waste our time, that could be spent making money or doing something worthwhile )
Flattery – the new currency?
Flattery is a currency for dolts who are not willing to part with their cash. Afterall, they just want to “connect” with their idol on a “personal” level. It touches their heart on such a deep level and even the thought that they should show some appreciation (i.e. money/gift) spoils the poor soul’s fantasy. For some reason, a horny man (sub or dom, makes no difference) thinks he is ENTITLED to female attention. In the old days, “free” female attention was more or less only available in a marriage. Today, it should be free at the click of a button and god forbid if they should pay (a total stranger) for their time/skill etc.
MY ADVICE: if you want to connect with a woman on a personal level, connect with your wife/gf/partner. However – what are the chances that she would want to merely hear about your kink or that you would even want her to know about it? Close to zero. The kinkiest activity you might indulge in is a BJ, and that’s if you’re lucky.
I think Ceara was saying that she has no problem talking to subs – after all this, blog is TITLED: How to make the most of a first impression WITHOUT A LOT OF CASH.
These are just things that She, I, and quite a few other Dommes find particularly annoying when dealing with first time contacts.
I’ve been online for 5 years, in the real world of BDSM for about the same amount of time. There are many differences, but these rules pretty much always apply unless the immediate scene denotes otherwise.
This is something EVERY sub should keep in mind when approaching a PROFESSIONAL Domme or one out to make a buck. I won’t say Financial Domme because there are plenty out there who actually don’t mind talking to someone when NOT getting paid.
My advice to a any sub whould be to read up on the domme their interested in before hand to know if they are looking for the same thing. Your right that they shouldnt have to bother you with questions they can easily find on your site/blog etc.
Just sad to me when you read stuff like this were someone is upset that you actually send them a complement and they get offended because your “wasting them time and costing them money”. But I guess when it is your “business” time is money.
Compliments are just stating the obvious. I’m not “offended” by them anymore than I would be offended by people constantly telling me everyday that the sky is blue (while Im at work.) It’s simply annoying and pointless after a while.
HAHA different perspective I guess. I don’t get alot of compliments so there always appreciated.
I couldn’t agree more. Because, what Ceara is saying is that there is not just 1 of you complimenting and ass kissing.. there is a sea of people complimenting and or ass kissing.. and well sometimes nothing said is better than something said, if it keeps us from having to sift through countless emails and offlines ( that yes.. it tends to waste our time, that could be spent making money or doing something worthwhile )
Flattery – the new currency?
Flattery is a currency for dolts who are not willing to part with their cash. Afterall, they just want to “connect” with their idol on a “personal” level. It touches their heart on such a deep level and even the thought that they should show some appreciation (i.e. money/gift) spoils the poor soul’s fantasy. For some reason, a horny man (sub or dom, makes no difference) thinks he is ENTITLED to female attention. In the old days, “free” female attention was more or less only available in a marriage. Today, it should be free at the click of a button and god forbid if they should pay (a total stranger) for their time/skill etc.
MY ADVICE: if you want to connect with a woman on a personal level, connect with your wife/gf/partner. However – what are the chances that she would want to merely hear about your kink or that you would even want her to know about it? Close to zero. The kinkiest activity you might indulge in is a BJ, and that’s if you’re lucky.
I think Ceara was saying that she has no problem talking to subs – after all this, blog is TITLED: How to make the most of a first impression WITHOUT A LOT OF CASH.
These are just things that She, I, and quite a few other Dommes find particularly annoying when dealing with first time contacts.
I’ve been online for 5 years, in the real world of BDSM for about the same amount of time. There are many differences, but these rules pretty much always apply unless the immediate scene denotes otherwise.
AMAZING!
This is very well said. In fact, I personally think this piece is amazing. Thank you so much for writing it.
AMAZING!
This is very well said. In fact, I personally think this piece is amazing. Thank you so much for writing it.
Totally Agree
I was trying to think of something to add, but I think You said everything that needs saying with these morons. I completely agree, and I can’t emphasize enough about the reading the website/blog point. I can’t tell You how many times I have to send replies saying “read My site idiot” or “if you read My site you’d fucking know wouldn’t you?”. These replies are most common to questions like “how much are custom clips?” “do you have a NiteFlirt?” “do you do r/t?” etc. etc. etc. just common sense shit they could read just on My about Me page alone.
Thanks for posting this it’s definitely needed saying, if You don’t mind I will be sending the link to this to every idiot that messages with the BS.
~Spoiled Seductress
Totally Agree
I was trying to think of something to add, but I think You said everything that needs saying with these morons. I completely agree, and I can’t emphasize enough about the reading the website/blog point. I can’t tell You how many times I have to send replies saying “read My site idiot” or “if you read My site you’d fucking know wouldn’t you?”. These replies are most common to questions like “how much are custom clips?” “do you have a NiteFlirt?” “do you do r/t?” etc. etc. etc. just common sense shit they could read just on My about Me page alone.
Thanks for posting this it’s definitely needed saying, if You don’t mind I will be sending the link to this to every idiot that messages with the BS.
~Spoiled Seductress
this is the most amazing piece I have ever read on Live Journal. I want to print it out and frame it and hang it up in my house so I can read it daily and applaud you for hitting the nail on the head. It is how every Domme feels … Yeah.. I have met many and can speak for them all.. we all feel the way Ceara feels. Only a sub would be delusional to say that we should be cool with chatting for free … aka wasting our time. Then again.. those like the guys who go to strip clubs and want to play a game of ” I want to get to know you better, before I pay you, even though you are on the clock and have bills to pay..fuck all your other paying customers , allow me to waste your time… ” with the stripper .. for free.
this is the most amazing piece I have ever read on Live Journal. I want to print it out and frame it and hang it up in my house so I can read it daily and applaud you for hitting the nail on the head. It is how every Domme feels … Yeah.. I have met many and can speak for them all.. we all feel the way Ceara feels. Only a sub would be delusional to say that we should be cool with chatting for free … aka wasting our time. Then again.. those like the guys who go to strip clubs and want to play a game of ” I want to get to know you better, before I pay you, even though you are on the clock and have bills to pay..fuck all your other paying customers , allow me to waste your time… ” with the stripper .. for free.
Excellent.
Not only do I not have anything to add, I’m going to be handing the link for this page out like candy on Halloween. I’ll call it ‘required reading’.
Thank you,
Mistress T
http://www.MistressT.net
Excellent.
Not only do I not have anything to add, I’m going to be handing the link for this page out like candy on Halloween. I’ll call it ‘required reading’.
Thank you,
Mistress T
http://www.MistressT.net
This would be great for every Domme to have on their personal website. Where you have to click, ‘yes, I have read understand this’ before getting to the main page.
This would be great for every Domme to have on their personal website. Where you have to click, ‘yes, I have read understand this’ before getting to the main page.
ceara wont block you!!! you can tell her whatever you want
I asked from ceara to block me after I tolled her that im not intristed in her anymore and she wont get a cent out of me – but she didnt block me from the messenger.she is that weak!
so my edvice is feal free to disregared whatever she just wrote and do whatever you want.
and another thing, dont trust her. I gave her my gf email as a fantazy game a few months ago and she sent her things althow I explained to her that Im not into that! she doesnt know the defrence between fantazy world and the real world.
Re: ceara wont block you!!! you can tell her whatever you want
lol
Re: ceara wont block you!!! you can tell her whatever you want
you can lagh all day but now people will know that you fuck peoples life in the real world.
im sure that in the near future you will contact me begging me to pay for a 5 min cam chat with you – and i will write back LOL
now how is the dome?
Seriously?
Maybe that money is better spent on spelling and grammar lessons, you small brained pencil dick.
Re: ceara wont block you!!! you can tell her whatever you want
Wow
Since she is Dom and you are sub? Your attitude is, is,. Ok why don’t you stop contacting her and block her? duh
Re: ceara wont block you!!! you can tell her whatever you want
“why don’t you stop contacting her and block her?”
This. Grow a brain. I hate it when guys come to Me for blackmail, give Me their info, and then go “Oh, well it was just a FANTASY.” Dommes aren’t here to indulge in your fantasies. We’re here because We enjoy what We do, not fucking around trying to get your dumbass off. Get a clue.
ceara wont block you!!! you can tell her whatever you want
I asked from ceara to block me after I tolled her that im not intristed in her anymore and she wont get a cent out of me – but she didnt block me from the messenger.she is that weak!
so my edvice is feal free to disregared whatever she just wrote and do whatever you want.
and another thing, dont trust her. I gave her my gf email as a fantazy game a few months ago and she sent her things althow I explained to her that Im not into that! she doesnt know the defrence between fantazy world and the real world.
Re: ceara wont block you!!! you can tell her whatever you want
lol
Re: ceara wont block you!!! you can tell her whatever you want
you can lagh all day but now people will know that you fuck peoples life in the real world.
im sure that in the near future you will contact me begging me to pay for a 5 min cam chat with you – and i will write back LOL
now how is the dome?
Seriously?
Maybe that money is better spent on spelling and grammar lessons, you small brained pencil dick.
Re: ceara wont block you!!! you can tell her whatever you want
Wow
Since she is Dom and you are sub? Your attitude is, is,. Ok why don’t you stop contacting her and block her? duh
Re: ceara wont block you!!! you can tell her whatever you want
“why don’t you stop contacting her and block her?”
This. Grow a brain. I hate it when guys come to Me for blackmail, give Me their info, and then go “Oh, well it was just a FANTASY.” Dommes aren’t here to indulge in your fantasies. We’re here because We enjoy what We do, not fucking around trying to get your dumbass off. Get a clue.
First off I want to start by giving a compliment, lol, you can see which category I fall into. Not only are u very beautiful but also, from reading your Blog, highly intelligent. Now this, I believe is where possibly some Dommes might have got the game wrong. Believing that, just because someone has wacky fetish urges that they need or want to fulfill, that they are not themselves just as manipulative and intelligent as the Dommes they seek. Now I am not a findom sub myself, and I dont really understand the need to give money away and not get anything physical or emotional back in return, but there are many who seem to get off on this fetish and thats cool, Thus being said I am very sure there are many subs that dont, but would still like to have interactions with some of the hot findommes they see in the clips and online. Now being someone that shoots fetish I try to stay away from forcing interactions online, I try to remain proffessional as I might want to work with someone I see online someday. I have a vanilla life and I ‘scratch an itch’ (nicely put by the way) every now and again. But some of these subs have nothing better to do than try and out manouvre and trick their way into interactions, these are the ones that will never change. They know what they are doing and this blog will not change them. They are not true findomme subs, they dont want to spend their hard earned money and get nothing back, but what they do want, is to get a reaction. Now I love teamtease, Ceara, Lynne, Rene and Monique infact I am a big, big fan of the clips stores, to me you guys are like lil superstars of the Bratty clips world, you and Goddess Tierra (another legend). Infact before you guys, no-one was really making clips directly by Brats, it was BDSM stuff But after you guys revolutionised the online findomme game, a new wave of findommes came which have started changing the map all over again. These are women that were told by a friend who is a findomme, ‘hey girl there is a real easy way to make money online, you should try it. Problem is, some of these women are not even dominant. So when they run into idiot subs, they are shocked because they thought all these guys would just lay down and roll over. Its a job like every other, and it has its downside just like every job. But the fact is Ceara, your absolutely right. its your world, and your law, so subs should definately abide by those rules. Everything you have said is common sense, but unfortunately not everyone has this, and that is something that will never change. And sorry if I have offended any Dommes, whilst I dont understand findomming, I actually thinks its great, and if I was female I would most likely take part in it lol. and if some of these guys are willing to give up the dough then so be it. I respect anyone getting their money, dominant or not…
First off I want to start by giving a compliment, lol, you can see which category I fall into. Not only are u very beautiful but also, from reading your Blog, highly intelligent. Now this, I believe is where possibly some Dommes might have got the game wrong. Believing that, just because someone has wacky fetish urges that they need or want to fulfill, that they are not themselves just as manipulative and intelligent as the Dommes they seek. Now I am not a findom sub myself, and I dont really understand the need to give money away and not get anything physical or emotional back in return, but there are many who seem to get off on this fetish and thats cool, Thus being said I am very sure there are many subs that dont, but would still like to have interactions with some of the hot findommes they see in the clips and online. Now being someone that shoots fetish I try to stay away from forcing interactions online, I try to remain proffessional as I might want to work with someone I see online someday. I have a vanilla life and I ‘scratch an itch’ (nicely put by the way) every now and again. But some of these subs have nothing better to do than try and out manouvre and trick their way into interactions, these are the ones that will never change. They know what they are doing and this blog will not change them. They are not true findomme subs, they dont want to spend their hard earned money and get nothing back, but what they do want, is to get a reaction. Now I love teamtease, Ceara, Lynne, Rene and Monique infact I am a big, big fan of the clips stores, to me you guys are like lil superstars of the Bratty clips world, you and Goddess Tierra (another legend). Infact before you guys, no-one was really making clips directly by Brats, it was BDSM stuff But after you guys revolutionised the online findomme game, a new wave of findommes came which have started changing the map all over again. These are women that were told by a friend who is a findomme, ‘hey girl there is a real easy way to make money online, you should try it. Problem is, some of these women are not even dominant. So when they run into idiot subs, they are shocked because they thought all these guys would just lay down and roll over. Its a job like every other, and it has its downside just like every job. But the fact is Ceara, your absolutely right. its your world, and your law, so subs should definately abide by those rules. Everything you have said is common sense, but unfortunately not everyone has this, and that is something that will never change. And sorry if I have offended any Dommes, whilst I dont understand findomming, I actually thinks its great, and if I was female I would most likely take part in it lol. and if some of these guys are willing to give up the dough then so be it. I respect anyone getting their money, dominant or not…
Makes sense to me
Everything Ceara says makes sense to me. i worry about being a nuisance to my Domme, if i may call HER my Domme, so i try to limit my interactions with HER to things that may actually be of at least some USE to HER. For the most part, that means buying HER clips, buying things from HER wishlist, and complimenting HER clips on twitter WITH the link so, if SHE wishes, SHE can retweet it and tempt some other losers with boners into (wisely) purchasing the clip. we subs are not special. we’re a dime a dozen. SHE is the special one. i know we subs crave whatever attention we can get from our Dommes. The attention of our Domme is like heroin. It’s heaven, and we have a constant craving for more. But the feeling is not reciprocal. SHE doesn’t need our attention. SHE has attention in abundance. So why would SHE waste HER time with every random idiot that proclaims his admiration? In Ancient Greece and Rome, the gods and goddesses would show favor to those who brought votive offerings to their temples. If you want to get a Domme’s attention, pay HER for it. Buy HER clips. Buy gifts from HER wishlist. Tribute HER. That’s the only way for a sub to distinguish himself (or herself). SHE may graciously accept your obedience and subservience, your adoration and submission, if you pay HER for the honor.
Makes sense to me
Everything Ceara says makes sense to me. i worry about being a nuisance to my Domme, if i may call HER my Domme, so i try to limit my interactions with HER to things that may actually be of at least some USE to HER. For the most part, that means buying HER clips, buying things from HER wishlist, and complimenting HER clips on twitter WITH the link so, if SHE wishes, SHE can retweet it and tempt some other losers with boners into (wisely) purchasing the clip. we subs are not special. we’re a dime a dozen. SHE is the special one. i know we subs crave whatever attention we can get from our Dommes. The attention of our Domme is like heroin. It’s heaven, and we have a constant craving for more. But the feeling is not reciprocal. SHE doesn’t need our attention. SHE has attention in abundance. So why would SHE waste HER time with every random idiot that proclaims his admiration? In Ancient Greece and Rome, the gods and goddesses would show favor to those who brought votive offerings to their temples. If you want to get a Domme’s attention, pay HER for it. Buy HER clips. Buy gifts from HER wishlist. Tribute HER. That’s the only way for a sub to distinguish himself (or herself). SHE may graciously accept your obedience and subservience, your adoration and submission, if you pay HER for the honor.
I think one of the main things that Ceara has pointed out here that most subs just don’t realize is the volume of messages that most successful online dommes receive day in and day out. I just know how frustrating it is nowadays keeping up with my work email, personal email, text messages, twitter, and facebook. Even I don’t have time to be bothered with messages that are repetitive, boring, or unnecessary. Electronic messaging can consume your life if you let it. I can’t begin to imagine the time it must take a domme to just sort through unread messages every day to find the small percentage of worthwhile/useful ones.
I think one of the main things that Ceara has pointed out here that most subs just don’t realize is the volume of messages that most successful online dommes receive day in and day out. I just know how frustrating it is nowadays keeping up with my work email, personal email, text messages, twitter, and facebook. Even I don’t have time to be bothered with messages that are repetitive, boring, or unnecessary. Electronic messaging can consume your life if you let it. I can’t begin to imagine the time it must take a domme to just sort through unread messages every day to find the small percentage of worthwhile/useful ones.
Question
What would You consider to be the worst thing You have ever done to somebody or made them do?
From: Uk foot bitch
Question
What would You consider to be the worst thing You have ever done to somebody or made them do?
From: Uk foot bitch
Form response
Far be it from me to try to tell someone else how to run their business, but I wonder if you could make your email less irritating if you had some easy form responses to your most common emails (for instance, Gmail “canned responses”).
So if someone wrote you a one-liner like, “Hey, you’re so sexy. I just wanted you to know I think you’re super hot.” You could just hit the canned response button and pick the one that says, “Hey, thanks sweetie. If you want to see more, check out (wherever your paid videos are). I think you’ll really like (URL of your best selling video) where I do (thing that is eye-poppingly naughty)”. Or if your persona is bitchier, you can wordsmith that a bit from flirty to bitchy. The point is to invite them to buy something.
That way, you only take a few seconds of your time, and maybe the guy buys a video. Just a suggestion.
Re: Form response
I appreciate the thought, but I’m talking mostly about messages sent via instant message; YIM, Skype etc. And 90% of the annoyance is having to RECIEVE the messages in general; not responding to them. At the end of the day, reading and picking out a half-hearted responses to an obnoxious number of repetitious comments/questions isn’t much different than reading and typing out half-hearted responses to an obnoxious number of repetitious comments/questions.
Form response
Far be it from me to try to tell someone else how to run their business, but I wonder if you could make your email less irritating if you had some easy form responses to your most common emails (for instance, Gmail “canned responses”).
So if someone wrote you a one-liner like, “Hey, you’re so sexy. I just wanted you to know I think you’re super hot.” You could just hit the canned response button and pick the one that says, “Hey, thanks sweetie. If you want to see more, check out (wherever your paid videos are). I think you’ll really like (URL of your best selling video) where I do (thing that is eye-poppingly naughty)”. Or if your persona is bitchier, you can wordsmith that a bit from flirty to bitchy. The point is to invite them to buy something.
That way, you only take a few seconds of your time, and maybe the guy buys a video. Just a suggestion.
Re: Form response
I appreciate the thought, but I’m talking mostly about messages sent via instant message; YIM, Skype etc. And 90% of the annoyance is having to RECIEVE the messages in general; not responding to them. At the end of the day, reading and picking out a half-hearted responses to an obnoxious number of repetitious comments/questions isn’t much different than reading and typing out half-hearted responses to an obnoxious number of repetitious comments/questions.
Agreed, and …
No denying that much of this is true and sound advice, not to mention eloquently put, and i wouldn’t bothering responding at all because i wholeheartedly agree with everything you say, but i’d like to add a couple points in order to highlight a few of the challenges (at least that i’ve found) with online domination.
1. The chit-chat part of the interaction probably serves as a kind of foreplay for some (clearly, not most) subs, a laying of the psychosexual groundwork for the “seduction.” Surely, the most annoying kind of money slave is the one who wants the Domme to manipulate him out of his money, and to pay upfront, in a way, spoils the fantasy. Annoying, but i doubt unexceptional. Such is the reality of what Dommes (admirably, i might add) have to deal with — a problem rectified surely by a sub’s willful and brief suspension of his fantasy to pay that introductory tribute You refer to. Sadly, easier said than done.
2. Also sad to say that that introductory tribute, as You point out, doesn’t necessarily yield, for the sub, the desired result. These are the risks of giving money unprompted (and un-seduced, as it were), and so there should be no complaints, but if the desired result, for the Domme, is to engender a psychosexual association with the sub’s paying her, then responding to that payment with continued silence or impersonal impatience (“Thanks, what do you want?”; a demand for further or larger tributes (“$20? That’s it?”); or an immediate attitude/tonal shift in the Domme that is contrary to what the sub expected, and in my experience, this is most common: i love to read Domme’s websites, and often do my due diligence research only to find, after that initial trib, that the style and personality portrayed did not match, for whatever reasons, Her r/t style and personality. Them’s the breaks, i suppose, but after a while, it takes a toll — psychosexually, i mean, not financially. Having gotten to know the Domme a bit first might’ve prevented this misapprehension, but as You point out, that would simply turn into a lost financial opportunity for the Domme. So “buyer beware” definitely obtains with online domination. Which leads to:
3. As You clearly state, this is a service. You are professionals. You are here to make money, and the only interest You have in subs (read: clients) is their money. i can only speak for myself in this case, because i simply have not heard this sort of thing from other slaves, but it’s hard for me to imagine my feelings are so far out of the ordinary. It’s hard to explain, but there’s something’s a bit empty and clinical about experiencing the deeply intimate and revealing nature of the D/s exchange as merely a professional service. This is the world we live in, and You have a living to make, and no one should begrudge You that in the least. But it’s probably not a stretch to surmise that for many subs this subtext hampers the fantasy (bad for the sub) and the commitment level (bad for the Domme). If it’s just a service, then doesn’t it reduce the incentive to treat it as anything more? If Dommes are just service- and content-providers, then, the reasoning goes, don’t Dommes work for the subs’ interests? I don’t necessarily agree with that reasoning (there is such a thing as supply and demand, after all), but i think it could explain why, in part, many Dommes have to deal with dolts. (Other than the fact that they are horny male idiots.)
This is hardly to say that, even on the business side of things, authentic and meaningful and valuable relationships can’t be had; they are, as countless Dommes and subs have publicly attested. But i can say that all my attempts at this have failed because, in the end, it wasn’t personal; it was just business.
Re: Agreed, and …
1. Yes, I most definitely recognize that chit-chat serves as “foreplay,” or as I prefer to call it, “freeplay.” I understand why some guys do it and that not all are coming from a selfish place. But the fact remains, I have no way of distinguishing with who and for how long I should indulge in this “freeplay” until I actually get something (ie money) out of it and quite frankly, I shouldn’t have to. If my needs are not put immediate and above that of the sub’s, they are not worth my time. Just imaging the amount of time I’d waste indulging in every guy who wants to be “seduced” out of his money with no promise that I’d actually see a dime makes my head hurt. Especially considering that that same time and seduction technique could be spend in front of a camera making clips with a guaranteed profit.
2. I should emphasize, that your attitude combined with the unprompted tribute is key here. I am probably one of the most impatient and greedy Dommes out there. But if a sub who I have yet to exchange a SINGLE word with, sends me a $20 tribute, and THEN messages me saying, “Hi goddess, I just sent you a meager $20 tribute and was hoping to chat with you for a short while before I sending you more.” it would go a long way with me, for no other reason except that they would stick out greatly from the crowd I generally deal with. If you send that tribute with a sense of entitlement or expectation, the Domme will pick up on that and that you will deserve nothing more than that “undesired result.”
3. Sometimes it’s important for professional fantasy-makers to step outside lala land for a moment and give their clients a reality check, because the service provider deserves better treatment and the customer probably has something to gain from it as well. I, personally, am not looking for a “commitment level” from subs and generally DO appreciate it when a sub (respectually) treats what I do as a service and nothing more. Which means, yes, I AM working for the sub’s interests, provided that the way they present their interest doesn’t annoy the holy hell out of me.
Re: Agreed, and …
Appreciate Your comments — great discussion.
1. “Freeplay” — nice. If the goal is to make money, then efficiency in your work day is all-important, and an explicit forbiddance against freeplay is an effective indicator that You are a professional fantasy-maker, not an online sexual object who happens to enjoy getting gifts and tributes via D/s — a vital distinction that subs should take note of and a few Dommes could possibly make better use of.
2. Key words: “meager” and “before…sending you more”. I suppose this is exactly the right thing to say for a money slave, but for someone who isn’t a money slave, it suggests they are precisely that. Hence, a misunderstanding may easily follow, in that the Domme might take the attitude of a Financial Domme when all the sub wanted was to get to know Her better, or head in a different fetishistic direction. Also in these words is an implicit promise to pay more, which can lead to further problems if the sub decides this Domme is not for him.
But your main point is well taken: subs need to fully research Dommes of potential interest to them; drop $20; and be up front and clear about what they’re looking for. Then let the fun begin. Given that subs probably check out scores of potentially interesting Dommes, however, those twenties could add up, which is most likely the greatest obstacle to better behavior among subs. i can hear them now, “But if i did that with every Domme, i’d be penniless!” And i can hear a chorus of Dommes in reply, “Oh, well…”
If all Dommes created a unified front in enforcing this $20 requirement (no talkie talkie until you walkie the walkie) — sort of a cyber-domination version of “Lysistrata” — then i’m quite certain we’d see a dramatic improvement in the attitude of subs.
Also, it should be a requirement that subs actually mention the $20 in their opening line, or it doesn’t count. I’ve always felt awkward about that because it immediately establishes a professional/client relationship that saps a bit of personal connection for me, but that’s no excuse.
3. “I AM working for the sub’s interests” — wow, not a lot of Dommes would say it quite that bluntly, and i would be curious if any might take exception to that, because of the potential that subs would and do (intentionally of course) misinterpret this. (“i’m the client, you’re the provider, and you need to give me what i want!”) Obviously a sub who’s clear about what he wants is good, but a sub who’s respectful and polite about it is even better, and You’ve said as much.
But i think You really hit the nail on the head when enjoin Your fellow Dommes to step outside of the fantasy to remind the sub that he is the client, and, as such, should act appropriately. The sub may always be aware of his sexually submissive role, but will all too easily forget or overlook his client role, whether out of a sense of denial or an over-immersion in his fantasy play, or because he simply misunderstands this reality. (i remember being dumbfounded once, years ago, when a Domme said in reply to me, after i expressed regret at the way i wrong-headedly allowed certain financial limits to fall one by one, “But honey, that’s what I do.” It was my introduction to money slavery, which i neither understood nor identified with.) Sexual desire, coupled with such an intense kind of power exchange, is a heady, combustible elixir of drives and emotions, particularly for the sub, and consequently, most of the burden of this proscription falls to the provider who always must maintain her professional dignity and distance in the face of stupidity, boorishness, obsession, and those damn charge-backs.
Re: Agreed, and …
“Key words: “meager” and “before…sending you more”. I suppose this is exactly the right thing to say for a money slave, but for someone who isn’t a money slave, it suggests they are precisely that.”
No, it doesn’t. It suggests they might be sending more money. That could be in the form of another tribute (i.e. money slave) or in the form of a payment for a service (i.e. customer.) Ultimately, that is the point, yes? You’re contacting the domme because you want something from her, whether it be a service or a relationship, either of which will ultimately cost you more than $20. I see the sub under no obligation to pay more provided that he’s not trying to take up a lot of her time. The only domme who would cause “further problems” is a domme who does not value her time. And if that’s the case, the block button works both ways.
“those twenties could add up, which is most likely the greatest obstacle to better behavior among subs.”
Those $20s shouldn’t add up provided the guy does his research and has realistic expectations. I suppose if he wants to chat with every Domme he possibly can, yeah, that would add up, in the same way our TIME (= money) adds up thanks to every idiot who bothers us in this way. If he’s serious about having a real deep relationship with a Domme, he should be able to learn just about everything he wants to know from the information that’s already out there. If he doesn’t have the money to throw down for a little get-to-know-you chat that he absolutely *must* have, he therefor doesn’t have the money required to sustain 95% of the deep, meaningful, long-term D/s relationships online and should probably stick to watching clips.
“Also, it should be a requirement that subs actually mention the $20 in their opening line, or it doesn’t count. I’ve always felt awkward about that because it immediately establishes a professional/client relationship that saps a bit of personal connection for me, but that’s no excuse.”
You’re right. No excuse. No one is here for the sole purpose of making a personal connection with YOU. A personal connection, perhaps, but given the amount of guys looking for just that, we need a better incentive that you’re worth our time.
“wow, not a lot of Dommes would say it quite that bluntly, and i would be curious if any might take exception to that, because of the potential that subs would and do (intentionally of course) misinterpret this. (“i’m the client, you’re the provider, and you need to give me what i want!”)”
I think most Dommes on here would take exception to this. It’s the biggest fantasy blower there is. We like to assert the notion that you are here for us, and not vice versa. And that’s true, in a sense, we can make money any number of ways and any sub that cops the attitude of “i’m the client, you’re the provider, and you need to give me what i want!” will find it very difficult obtaining just that.
But the fact remains, NO business is successful or lucrative without meeting other people’s needs. “Real domme” talk aside, the most financially successful us have gotten to where we are today because we are meeting the needs of subs. Period. No one willingly gives someone their money knowing they will genuinely not get anything out of it. Money slaves included. Because what a money slaves “get” out of it, is the feeling their dick gets when they FEEL like they just gave someone their money and genuinely didn’t get anything out of it. Oh the irony.
Re: Agreed, and .Exactly true
visually and sensually PCL has got me by the short hair and wallet
I cannot afford more than moments of Her sacred time
It is my fondest wish to devote myself sexually to Her fame and
happiness. It is Her desire to allow me to say this and to limit
Her time, attention and effort to things SHE enjoys. Want more
attention. spend more money. She is the best and prettiest. I can
grow to prove it true. B
an apartment with full time concierge near CP – off Madison Ave .
If you like it – up to
six years ending in 2018 annually
one year at a time if you like.
after all that is how they have arrived so far.
No dough and no teasing
comfortable space and room service
for up to 5 days and six nights
with as little as 3 weeks notice
Great lights and stands and tripods and backdrops
up to seven hours of W Magazine published studio and
photoshop work done in an even exchange of Video editing
tips taught and shared.
Sure that you had fun in Las Vegas – come to New York in
April. It is the place to be for up to 6 days in April.
Peace and Abundance!
Agreed, and …
No denying that much of this is true and sound advice, not to mention eloquently put, and i wouldn’t bothering responding at all because i wholeheartedly agree with everything you say, but i’d like to add a couple points in order to highlight a few of the challenges (at least that i’ve found) with online domination.
1. The chit-chat part of the interaction probably serves as a kind of foreplay for some (clearly, not most) subs, a laying of the psychosexual groundwork for the “seduction.” Surely, the most annoying kind of money slave is the one who wants the Domme to manipulate him out of his money, and to pay upfront, in a way, spoils the fantasy. Annoying, but i doubt unexceptional. Such is the reality of what Dommes (admirably, i might add) have to deal with — a problem rectified surely by a sub’s willful and brief suspension of his fantasy to pay that introductory tribute You refer to. Sadly, easier said than done.
2. Also sad to say that that introductory tribute, as You point out, doesn’t necessarily yield, for the sub, the desired result. These are the risks of giving money unprompted (and un-seduced, as it were), and so there should be no complaints, but if the desired result, for the Domme, is to engender a psychosexual association with the sub’s paying her, then responding to that payment with continued silence or impersonal impatience (“Thanks, what do you want?”; a demand for further or larger tributes (“$20? That’s it?”); or an immediate attitude/tonal shift in the Domme that is contrary to what the sub expected, and in my experience, this is most common: i love to read Domme’s websites, and often do my due diligence research only to find, after that initial trib, that the style and personality portrayed did not match, for whatever reasons, Her r/t style and personality. Them’s the breaks, i suppose, but after a while, it takes a toll — psychosexually, i mean, not financially. Having gotten to know the Domme a bit first might’ve prevented this misapprehension, but as You point out, that would simply turn into a lost financial opportunity for the Domme. So “buyer beware” definitely obtains with online domination. Which leads to:
3. As You clearly state, this is a service. You are professionals. You are here to make money, and the only interest You have in subs (read: clients) is their money. i can only speak for myself in this case, because i simply have not heard this sort of thing from other slaves, but it’s hard for me to imagine my feelings are so far out of the ordinary. It’s hard to explain, but there’s something’s a bit empty and clinical about experiencing the deeply intimate and revealing nature of the D/s exchange as merely a professional service. This is the world we live in, and You have a living to make, and no one should begrudge You that in the least. But it’s probably not a stretch to surmise that for many subs this subtext hampers the fantasy (bad for the sub) and the commitment level (bad for the Domme). If it’s just a service, then doesn’t it reduce the incentive to treat it as anything more? If Dommes are just service- and content-providers, then, the reasoning goes, don’t Dommes work for the subs’ interests? I don’t necessarily agree with that reasoning (there is such a thing as supply and demand, after all), but i think it could explain why, in part, many Dommes have to deal with dolts. (Other than the fact that they are horny male idiots.)
This is hardly to say that, even on the business side of things, authentic and meaningful and valuable relationships can’t be had; they are, as countless Dommes and subs have publicly attested. But i can say that all my attempts at this have failed because, in the end, it wasn’t personal; it was just business.
Re: Agreed, and …
1. Yes, I most definitely recognize that chit-chat serves as “foreplay,” or as I prefer to call it, “freeplay.” I understand why some guys do it and that not all are coming from a selfish place. But the fact remains, I have no way of distinguishing with who and for how long I should indulge in this “freeplay” until I actually get something (ie money) out of it and quite frankly, I shouldn’t have to. If my needs are not put immediate and above that of the sub’s, they are not worth my time. Just imaging the amount of time I’d waste indulging in every guy who wants to be “seduced” out of his money with no promise that I’d actually see a dime makes my head hurt. Especially considering that that same time and seduction technique could be spend in front of a camera making clips with a guaranteed profit.
2. I should emphasize, that your attitude combined with the unprompted tribute is key here. I am probably one of the most impatient and greedy Dommes out there. But if a sub who I have yet to exchange a SINGLE word with, sends me a $20 tribute, and THEN messages me saying, “Hi goddess, I just sent you a meager $20 tribute and was hoping to chat with you for a short while before I sending you more.” it would go a long way with me, for no other reason except that they would stick out greatly from the crowd I generally deal with. If you send that tribute with a sense of entitlement or expectation, the Domme will pick up on that and that you will deserve nothing more than that “undesired result.”
3. Sometimes it’s important for professional fantasy-makers to step outside lala land for a moment and give their clients a reality check, because the service provider deserves better treatment and the customer probably has something to gain from it as well. I, personally, am not looking for a “commitment level” from subs and generally DO appreciate it when a sub (respectually) treats what I do as a service and nothing more. Which means, yes, I AM working for the sub’s interests, provided that the way they present their interest doesn’t annoy the holy hell out of me.
Re: Agreed, and …
Appreciate Your comments — great discussion.
1. “Freeplay” — nice. If the goal is to make money, then efficiency in your work day is all-important, and an explicit forbiddance against freeplay is an effective indicator that You are a professional fantasy-maker, not an online sexual object who happens to enjoy getting gifts and tributes via D/s — a vital distinction that subs should take note of and a few Dommes could possibly make better use of.
2. Key words: “meager” and “before…sending you more”. I suppose this is exactly the right thing to say for a money slave, but for someone who isn’t a money slave, it suggests they are precisely that. Hence, a misunderstanding may easily follow, in that the Domme might take the attitude of a Financial Domme when all the sub wanted was to get to know Her better, or head in a different fetishistic direction. Also in these words is an implicit promise to pay more, which can lead to further problems if the sub decides this Domme is not for him.
But your main point is well taken: subs need to fully research Dommes of potential interest to them; drop $20; and be up front and clear about what they’re looking for. Then let the fun begin. Given that subs probably check out scores of potentially interesting Dommes, however, those twenties could add up, which is most likely the greatest obstacle to better behavior among subs. i can hear them now, “But if i did that with every Domme, i’d be penniless!” And i can hear a chorus of Dommes in reply, “Oh, well…”
If all Dommes created a unified front in enforcing this $20 requirement (no talkie talkie until you walkie the walkie) — sort of a cyber-domination version of “Lysistrata” — then i’m quite certain we’d see a dramatic improvement in the attitude of subs.
Also, it should be a requirement that subs actually mention the $20 in their opening line, or it doesn’t count. I’ve always felt awkward about that because it immediately establishes a professional/client relationship that saps a bit of personal connection for me, but that’s no excuse.
3. “I AM working for the sub’s interests” — wow, not a lot of Dommes would say it quite that bluntly, and i would be curious if any might take exception to that, because of the potential that subs would and do (intentionally of course) misinterpret this. (“i’m the client, you’re the provider, and you need to give me what i want!”) Obviously a sub who’s clear about what he wants is good, but a sub who’s respectful and polite about it is even better, and You’ve said as much.
But i think You really hit the nail on the head when enjoin Your fellow Dommes to step outside of the fantasy to remind the sub that he is the client, and, as such, should act appropriately. The sub may always be aware of his sexually submissive role, but will all too easily forget or overlook his client role, whether out of a sense of denial or an over-immersion in his fantasy play, or because he simply misunderstands this reality. (i remember being dumbfounded once, years ago, when a Domme said in reply to me, after i expressed regret at the way i wrong-headedly allowed certain financial limits to fall one by one, “But honey, that’s what I do.” It was my introduction to money slavery, which i neither understood nor identified with.) Sexual desire, coupled with such an intense kind of power exchange, is a heady, combustible elixir of drives and emotions, particularly for the sub, and consequently, most of the burden of this proscription falls to the provider who always must maintain her professional dignity and distance in the face of stupidity, boorishness, obsession, and those damn charge-backs.
Re: Agreed, and …
“Key words: “meager” and “before…sending you more”. I suppose this is exactly the right thing to say for a money slave, but for someone who isn’t a money slave, it suggests they are precisely that.”
No, it doesn’t. It suggests they might be sending more money. That could be in the form of another tribute (i.e. money slave) or in the form of a payment for a service (i.e. customer.) Ultimately, that is the point, yes? You’re contacting the domme because you want something from her, whether it be a service or a relationship, either of which will ultimately cost you more than $20. I see the sub under no obligation to pay more provided that he’s not trying to take up a lot of her time. The only domme who would cause “further problems” is a domme who does not value her time. And if that’s the case, the block button works both ways.
“those twenties could add up, which is most likely the greatest obstacle to better behavior among subs.”
Those $20s shouldn’t add up provided the guy does his research and has realistic expectations. I suppose if he wants to chat with every Domme he possibly can, yeah, that would add up, in the same way our TIME (= money) adds up thanks to every idiot who bothers us in this way. If he’s serious about having a real deep relationship with a Domme, he should be able to learn just about everything he wants to know from the information that’s already out there. If he doesn’t have the money to throw down for a little get-to-know-you chat that he absolutely *must* have, he therefor doesn’t have the money required to sustain 95% of the deep, meaningful, long-term D/s relationships online and should probably stick to watching clips.
“Also, it should be a requirement that subs actually mention the $20 in their opening line, or it doesn’t count. I’ve always felt awkward about that because it immediately establishes a professional/client relationship that saps a bit of personal connection for me, but that’s no excuse.”
You’re right. No excuse. No one is here for the sole purpose of making a personal connection with YOU. A personal connection, perhaps, but given the amount of guys looking for just that, we need a better incentive that you’re worth our time.
“wow, not a lot of Dommes would say it quite that bluntly, and i would be curious if any might take exception to that, because of the potential that subs would and do (intentionally of course) misinterpret this. (“i’m the client, you’re the provider, and you need to give me what i want!”)”
I think most Dommes on here would take exception to this. It’s the biggest fantasy blower there is. We like to assert the notion that you are here for us, and not vice versa. And that’s true, in a sense, we can make money any number of ways and any sub that cops the attitude of “i’m the client, you’re the provider, and you need to give me what i want!” will find it very difficult obtaining just that.
But the fact remains, NO business is successful or lucrative without meeting other people’s needs. “Real domme” talk aside, the most financially successful us have gotten to where we are today because we are meeting the needs of subs. Period. No one willingly gives someone their money knowing they will genuinely not get anything out of it. Money slaves included. Because what a money slaves “get” out of it, is the feeling their dick gets when they FEEL like they just gave someone their money and genuinely didn’t get anything out of it. Oh the irony.
Re: Agreed, and .Exactly true
visually and sensually PCL has got me by the short hair and wallet
I cannot afford more than moments of Her sacred time
It is my fondest wish to devote myself sexually to Her fame and
happiness. It is Her desire to allow me to say this and to limit
Her time, attention and effort to things SHE enjoys. Want more
attention. spend more money. She is the best and prettiest. I can
grow to prove it true. B
an apartment with full time concierge near CP – off Madison Ave .
If you like it – up to
six years ending in 2018 annually
one year at a time if you like.
after all that is how they have arrived so far.
No dough and no teasing
comfortable space and room service
for up to 5 days and six nights
with as little as 3 weeks notice
Great lights and stands and tripods and backdrops
up to seven hours of W Magazine published studio and
photoshop work done in an even exchange of Video editing
tips taught and shared.
Sure that you had fun in Las Vegas – come to New York in
April. It is the place to be for up to 6 days in April.
Peace and Abundance!
i came here via an email link sent to me from Mistress T. Wow, after reading the responses from those first two supposed subs (who neither seem to understand what being a true sub means nor having a fifth grader’s command of the English language), I am beginning to understand the enormity of immaturity and lack of curtesy Pro Dommes must suffer through! I found Your prose to be not only enlightening and heart-felt, but also to be written with a perfect demeanor: Dominating yet kind; informative yet also funny and entertaining. For me, as a true sub, i believe i already follow these creatively expressed guidelines, and feel the need to apologize for my he gender for the frustrating and idiotic white noise You must dig through each work-day! Whether full-time or part-time, i appreciate that this is Your job, and also what You have sacrificed in order to be able to do it. Thank You. -Armand
Just Had To Say
If you’re going to make a comment about someone’s command of the English language, you should be ABSOLUTELY certain that you have not made any spelling or grammatical errors. curtesy, lol.
But likewise, I think this list is very well written, and informative. It is a worthwhile read for anyone interested in interacting with an online Domme.
I also appreciate the intent behind this advice, not only to save some time for the Dommes out there, but also to increase the odds of the Sub receiving the results they are hoping for.
In my opinion this article was written with the best interests of both parties involved, and covers key issues with a great deal of professionalism and honesty.
Not to end on a needless compliment, but thank you Miss Lynch for your adept advice.
i came here via an email link sent to me from Mistress T. Wow, after reading the responses from those first two supposed subs (who neither seem to understand what being a true sub means nor having a fifth grader’s command of the English language), I am beginning to understand the enormity of immaturity and lack of curtesy Pro Dommes must suffer through! I found Your prose to be not only enlightening and heart-felt, but also to be written with a perfect demeanor: Dominating yet kind; informative yet also funny and entertaining. For me, as a true sub, i believe i already follow these creatively expressed guidelines, and feel the need to apologize for my he gender for the frustrating and idiotic white noise You must dig through each work-day! Whether full-time or part-time, i appreciate that this is Your job, and also what You have sacrificed in order to be able to do it. Thank You. -Armand
Just Had To Say
If you’re going to make a comment about someone’s command of the English language, you should be ABSOLUTELY certain that you have not made any spelling or grammatical errors. curtesy, lol.
But likewise, I think this list is very well written, and informative. It is a worthwhile read for anyone interested in interacting with an online Domme.
I also appreciate the intent behind this advice, not only to save some time for the Dommes out there, but also to increase the odds of the Sub receiving the results they are hoping for.
In my opinion this article was written with the best interests of both parties involved, and covers key issues with a great deal of professionalism and honesty.
Not to end on a needless compliment, but thank you Miss Lynch for your adept advice.
I just saw this and wanted to say THANK YOU
Very well said, and very thorough. It is SO EASY for boys to avoid annoying Us – in fact it would actually require less time and energy on their part and it seems so simple and logical. I guess I just can’t “dumb down” enough to understand the idiot logic behind their actions.
I love a boy who knows what’s up and gets right to it. I too half-ass cam shows when boys beat around the bush and/or act like I’m supposed to read their minds regarding why they’re there. That is unsatisfying for both parties. Just get to the point. If I have to drag even the info regarding a boy’s fetishes out of him, that’s setting a negative tone right from the start. meh
I just saw this and wanted to say THANK YOU
Very well said, and very thorough. It is SO EASY for boys to avoid annoying Us – in fact it would actually require less time and energy on their part and it seems so simple and logical. I guess I just can’t “dumb down” enough to understand the idiot logic behind their actions.
I love a boy who knows what’s up and gets right to it. I too half-ass cam shows when boys beat around the bush and/or act like I’m supposed to read their minds regarding why they’re there. That is unsatisfying for both parties. Just get to the point. If I have to drag even the info regarding a boy’s fetishes out of him, that’s setting a negative tone right from the start. meh
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Fundamental Guide
“the blocked button is not difficult to utilize. But for those who took the time to read this, I promise you can benefit from my advice.”
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