So, I've noticed that whenever I write a blog entry about how I think submissives should behave when interacting with dominant women online, you boys have mixed responses. Many of you are supportive, but I can almost always expect some of you to ignite some kind of firey debate about "true" dominance or bitch and moan as you hang on like a vice grip to the many pleasures you feel entitled to. Ironically, the response I get from fellow dommes is overwhelmingly positive. Imagine that.
Let me be clear; this is only advice. Take it or leave it. Just know that "leaving it" means you will probably have less than enjoyable experience with the women you so desperately want to interact with. I really don't expect to change the general attitude or approach of submissives online. Hell, without pretty pictures to hold your attention, I'm sure most of you will just scroll right past this. That's fine. But to the few of you who do take the time and consideration to read this (and I know you're out there) your weiner will thank you for it.
That said, if you haven't already, please read the two prerequisites to this how-to entry;
1. How to make the best first impression without a lot of cash
2. Service Vs. Consumption
If you've read those, you should have a pretty good idea of a) what it means to be a time-waster and how to avoid it and b) all that sub-talk about "serving" and being a "slave" is really just fantasy boner fuel and truthfully what you're really after is to buy one of the many services dommes offer. Awesome. Welcome to the club. You are the 99%.
So how do you have the best session possible? It isn't just a matter of having the money to pay for it, thats merely the obvious prerequisite. It's about being the type of sub that a Domme enjoys sessioning with. The most in-demand Dommes can make a ton of money in ways that don't involve dealing with you what so ever. So why on earth would we if we don't like you?
Believe it or not beyond the vast majority of you who annoy the holy hell out of me, there are a few who I really truly enjoy sessioning with and am constantly inspired to satisfy and please in my own sadistic way. Here's my advice on how to become one of those select few:
DO:
1. Learn as much as you can about your domme before contacting: I'm reiterating from my previous entry so I'll make this quick; consider your her times precious, because it is. Taking it up to ask simple questions you could have figured out on your own means you're more likely to annoy her and less likely to receive the best session you possibly can.
2. Be fully prepared to send payment before contact: One of my biggest pet peeves are guys who contact me wanting to play 20 questions, then when they finally decide they want to go through and buy a session, take another hour to set up their payment processing account. This is especially annoying because its a common strategy for guys who actually have no intention of purchasing anything and just tell you they're setting up their account to stall time. They give you point-by-point updates ("ok just putting in my information now") sandwiched in between the submissive equivalent of dirty talk ("OMG what are you going to do to me? Will you own me?") just to string the Domme along only to sign off when he's gotten a sufficient amount of free wank material. Yeah, I get it, some of you are new to this and really aren't trying to play games. But that's why youre reading this so you can know better and make an honest effort to separate yourself from the men who scam and lie to us all the time, right? There's simply no excuse as to why it should take any longer than 10 minutes between initial contact and money in hand.
3. Know what you want. The first thing I ask guys who contact me is "what do you want?" This isn't a trick question and I expect an honest answer. I know it seems pretty ass-backwards in a world where dommes insist that "you're here for me not vice versa," but I have a much more realistic approach to domination. Each an every one of you contact a Domme because you want something from her. The sooner you tell me what you want, the sooner I know how to best get what I want. Don't tell me you want to "serve" unless you're prepared to send a tribute and then immediately fuck off. You should know by now that chances are you want to buy a service, not be of service. Or, if you're one of those wishy washy newbies who's "never done this before," you want to buy my time to discuss the fact you have no clue what the fuck you're doing. Bottom line; if what you want doesn't involve sending me money, you have no reason to contact me.
3. Own your desires: Many subs make the mistake of insisting on finding a Domme who is spankin hot AND shares his fetishes. This is extremely really unrealistic. That isn't to say women aren't kinky or don't have fetishes of their own, its just that far less of them do compared to men. Or rather, the kinks we do have rarely coincide with yours. Furthermore, within the already small demographic of women who are drop dead gorgeous, you have an even less likely chance of finding one who shares your already bizarre kink. Instead of being disgruntled over this or naively accepting the ego-stroking lie most pros will feed you, take pleasure in the one thing most of us genuinely DO enjoy; exploiting your kink for profit. Seriously, how hot is that? In my service vs consumption entry, a few of you interpreted my admission that I don't share any of your kinks to mean that I don't enjoy my job. Which is silly. I love what I do very much because bizarre fetishes fascinate me, they just don't titillate me. So what that means for you? A chance to interact with a smokin hot dominant female who knows how to get in your head because she was genuinely curious enough to learn how. So instead of approaching a Domme and asking her what she's "into" in the hopes that she'll say something other than "money," present to your desires to her as a means of handing over the tools in which best to manipulate you with (I explain this further in #5.) If the Domme is smart like me, you won't give a rats ass whether or not it she actually shares your fetish because you won't be able to tell the difference.
4. Save the dirty talk for after the session begins: Saying things like "Please own me, Mistress" "I will do anything," "Oink oink" or whatever else is the submissive equivalent of saying, "show me your tits." You are speaking in such a way as to elicit a response that you will find arousing. It's a selfish, rude and manipulative way of obtaining services you haven't paid for under the guise of being "submissive." Sure, some of you just want a little warm up to "inspire" you to pay, but I simply don't work that way. My needs always go before your own. Just like the guys who lie about setting up their payment accounts to string the Domme along, too many men will play this game with no intention of purchasing anything. Rather than waste a HUGE amount of time indulging each and every guy who wants to be "seduced" out of his money in the hopes of finding the few who will actually pay, I simply favor those who know how to properly approach me and ignore the rest. Which do you want to be? The choice is yours.
5. Top from the bottom the proper way: Recently a rather thick-skulled customer of mine who reads my blog genuinely thought he understood how I think subs should act and behave. This guy loves my ass. Recently when he bought cam time he wouldn't shut up about me showing him my ass, which made me want to do the opposite. I don't like being told what to do. In his mind, he was just being "straight forward" about what he wanted as a "customer" and that therefor I should "give him what he wanted." Wrong. I know he likes ass. He knows I know he likes ass. There's no reason to continuously demand to see my ass as though I'm some kind of cam puppet. That is the kind of "topping from the bottom" Dommes complain about. If you tell me to do something, it probably wont happen. However, that isn't to say there aren't ways of properly communicating your desires so as to increase your odds of getting what you want. It's a matter of presenting your weaknesses to the Domme and then leaving it up to her to decide if and when she wants to use them. Instead of ordering her to "do this" or "do that," tell the Domme at the beginning of a session (if she isn't familiar with you already) "It makes me so weak when you ______" or "my weaknesses are _____" and then shut the fuck up about it and be on your best behavior. That's it. If you do that, I can almost guarantee you you'll get exactly what you want because you've handed the power over to the Domme rather than attempting to direct the session yourself and then behaved in such a way that inspires the Domme to reward you.
6. Give lots of feedback throughout the session: If a Domme is doing something you really like, say so enthusiastically. If she's doing something you don't like, say nothing. Don't bitch or complain, just ignore it. Doing this clearly communicates to the Domme what works for you and what doesn't without running the risk of appearing like a demanding sub. Alternatively you can steer the session elsewhere by making suggestions (not demands.) For example, if you're a sissy who's into chastity but not forced bi and your Domme starts talking about training you to suck cock, you can steer the conversation by saying "What if you locked my little clitty up? OMG." Again, this is all a matter of keeping the power in the Domme's hands. If she is still insists on talking about sucking dick after a gentle suggestion? Suck it up (pun intended) and deal. But chances are if you've done everything I've outlined above she most likely likes you, wants you to come back, and will therefor be inspired to do what works for you and not what doesn't.
7. Leave positive feedback afterwards; Niteflirt has a feedback area that allows you to show your appreciation while simultaneously promoting me. Had a session outside of niteflirt? Jump onto twitter and show your appreciation there. Too fucking lazy to create a twitter account? Comment anonymously on my blog. Really, there's no excuse not to do this. It will also work in your favor because it'll increase the odds that I'll remember you in a positive way. Keep in mind this kind of feedback is only useful when it's made public, so that it can serve as promotion for potential customers who are able to see it. Contacting me directly does nothing for me except take up my time.
DONT:
1. Wave money around and say, "What can I get for $__?" Seriously? So fucking tacky.
2. Beg when you're told "no." The only time when its appropriate to beg is when I tell you to. Any other time is seriously annoying and will get you blocked very quickly. No means no. Similar to submissive dirty talk, begging is another form of manipulation under the guise of being "submissive." In actuality, it just demonstrates you don't give a shit what I have to say.
3. Tell me I'd make "so much more money if I just ____" Here's the thing, I make a ridonkulous amount of money doing what I want. You're not going to convince me to do things that I, for whatever reason, don't want to do just to make a little bit more of what I already have. Your request is going to be even less appealing to me if you use this line or try to argue with me because you then cross over into becoming an obnoxious prick who can't respect my choices and therefor the last person I care to please.
4. Piss me off to elicit a "punishment." If you don't know by now, I've actually been doing this for longer than 5 minutes. Which means I know the difference between "punishment" and "reward" within the D/s context. Pissing me off will not inspire me to verbally trash you or "force" you to fuck yourself with a dildo. It'll inspire me to, you know, genuinely punish you (i.e. ignore you or act completely cordial.)
5. Ask if you can call me on niteflirt Here is a link to my listings. Now here's a hot tip: if my lines are on, you're allowed to call. If they're off, you're not. WHOA, right? Notice how easy it is to figure this out for yourself without bothering me needlessly.
6. Argue. If I say the sky is purple. Guess what? The sky is purple. Arguing with me, especially when I am calling you out on your shitty behavior, is insanely inappropriate. Don't explain to me that's not what you "meant" or that I "misunderstood." You are the one at fault. Always. The sooner you accept it and correct it the happier the both of us will be.
Awesome
Brilliantly, succinctly put Ceara! Let’s just hope the audience that can most benefit from this lesson actually reads and digests it.
I especially love that you identify that we can and DO make money without interacting with horny fans. It is the engaging, entertaining, and willing boy that is willing to be part of the session versus the recipient of Domme autopilot that makes it fun. (“What will you do to me?” results in “be annoyed enough to put you at the bottom of my priority list.”)
Definitely will be linking to this one!
Goddess Alexandra Snow
@DominaSnow
Awesome
Brilliantly, succinctly put Ceara! Let’s just hope the audience that can most benefit from this lesson actually reads and digests it.
I especially love that you identify that we can and DO make money without interacting with horny fans. It is the engaging, entertaining, and willing boy that is willing to be part of the session versus the recipient of Domme autopilot that makes it fun. (“What will you do to me?” results in “be annoyed enough to put you at the bottom of my priority list.”)
Definitely will be linking to this one!
Goddess Alexandra Snow
@DominaSnow
Agree 100%
Can’t agree with you enough. Just because a sub/slave has the money to session doesn’t necessarily mean he will be able to session. Just because you wave money in a Domme’s face doesn’t mean you are going to earn yourself a session with her. Personally, I turn down sessions on a daily basis because the alleged “slave” is too demanding, annoying, or just can’t communicate or interact well. Communication is key, and in order for a sub to have a good session with his chosen Domme he needs to remember we aren’t mind readers. If he fails to communicate himself effectively then he only has himself to blame when his hopefully expectations aren’t met.
Mina Thorne
Agree 100%
Can’t agree with you enough. Just because a sub/slave has the money to session doesn’t necessarily mean he will be able to session. Just because you wave money in a Domme’s face doesn’t mean you are going to earn yourself a session with her. Personally, I turn down sessions on a daily basis because the alleged “slave” is too demanding, annoying, or just can’t communicate or interact well. Communication is key, and in order for a sub to have a good session with his chosen Domme he needs to remember we aren’t mind readers. If he fails to communicate himself effectively then he only has himself to blame when his hopefully expectations aren’t met.
Mina Thorne
Thank you for writing this.
Ceara, you’ve done it again. You’ve created something that I will make required reading for many…something I will link the hell out of.
Hey guy: if for some reason you’ve skimmed this article & you’re just reading the comments, scroll the fuck back up and read every single word.
Cheers,
Mistress T
Re: Thank you for writing this.
Glad to see my first few positive comments are from r/t pros. Can I assume these rules still apply offline as well?
Thank you for writing this.
Ceara, you’ve done it again. You’ve created something that I will make required reading for many…something I will link the hell out of.
Hey guy: if for some reason you’ve skimmed this article & you’re just reading the comments, scroll the fuck back up and read every single word.
Cheers,
Mistress T
Re: Thank you for writing this.
Glad to see my first few positive comments are from r/t pros. Can I assume these rules still apply offline as well?
You got the hammer
because you hit the nail on the head!!
You got the hammer
because you hit the nail on the head!!
The truth about this blog
Let me begin with a proper disclosure: I am the ” thick sculled” costumer Ceara lynch refers to, and yes, I do think she has a nice ass.
Well, the first wrong fact Ceara wrote is that I am her costumer. The truth is I am not. The reason for that is that the only “service” she gives is taking your money – not anything more then that. If that is what you are looking for – she is the domm for you. But, if you are into more then that you are in the wrong place…
The second thing I should write here is that I think that the main reason she wrote this blog is to try to bring back all of her disappointed ex costumers, including me. Maby someday Ceara will learn that a returning costumer is one who believes he gets good value for money (even when it involves financial domination).
I do hope Ceara will do a self examination, so at least other potential costumers will be able to her service.
Yonatan
Re: The truth about this blog
Welcome back Yonatan! I knew you couldn’t stay away. Please feel free to tell everyone what I waste of money I am after years of spending thousands on me.
Re: The truth about this blog
It took me a few years and a few thousonds of dollars to understand what I wrote, I know it’s hard for you to believe this but I’m not back, I am far away from spending another cent on you. I prefer spending money on real dommes, and I’m sure many of your ex costumers feal the same.
Re: The truth about this blog
Oh yeah, you’re not back at all. You just read my blog daily, comment, and check back frequently to see if I’ve replied…. So very far away.
Re: The truth about this blog
He’s so far wrapped up in your web Miss Ceara…he doesn’t even realize he’s done for lol. How does that expression go about protesting too much? Say this for him at least he has great taste.
Re: The truth about this blog
I double and agree to what you guys said. Ceara is of type ONLY looking for quick money who has absolutely no idea what real domination and bdsm is about. She thinks being a bitch and asking for money is being a domme! So so wrong! I have had sessions with REAL dommes which I can’t ever forget and am so proud of and on the other side, I had a session with her a while ago which was absolutely ridiculous. So, I can completely see the difference. Bottom line: if you are looking for someone who actually has an idea what being a domme is about, Ceara is far from being that person. Not even worth a penny.
Re: The truth about this blog
Ok… I am very angry at Ceara after the last session with her but the truth is she is the hottest sexiest woman I’ve seen in my life and there isn’t an hour that pasts in my life that I don’t think of her. All I want is her to like me after spending thousonds of dollors on her…
I’m sorry for what I wrote before. There is no escape from this unbelievable goddess
Yonatan
Re: The truth about this blog
Check your email
Re: The truth about this blog
Yes, she is hot no doubt. If she wasn’t, I would go for a session with her! But being hot is not being a DOMME. Again, I think she is just looking for quick money and that is all she is about.
Re: The truth about this blog
First of all, to claim that all Miss Ceara does is take your money is ridiculous. Am I to assume you haven’t watched any of her clips? Second, from what I know of Miss Ceara from following her on twitter and visiting her various links, she is very up front about what she offers and expects. What more can a submissive ask? And finally, on a lighter note, I was going to let it slide the first time, but really…each time you referred to yourself as Miss Ceara’s COSTUMER I felt the need to thank you growing as she does look quite stunning in the COSTUMES you’ve selected for her 😉
Re: The truth about this blog
I agree that it doesn’t make sense to say that Princess Ceara doesn’t provide value for your money. I recently purchased a custom clip, and despite the fact that she already had my money, she obviously put a lot of thought and creativity into making it the best clip that she could. (“Happy Birthday, Johnny”). That’s the epitome of providing good value.
The truth about this blog
Let me begin with a proper disclosure: I am the ” thick sculled” costumer Ceara lynch refers to, and yes, I do think she has a nice ass.
Well, the first wrong fact Ceara wrote is that I am her costumer. The truth is I am not. The reason for that is that the only “service” she gives is taking your money – not anything more then that. If that is what you are looking for – she is the domm for you. But, if you are into more then that you are in the wrong place…
The second thing I should write here is that I think that the main reason she wrote this blog is to try to bring back all of her disappointed ex costumers, including me. Maby someday Ceara will learn that a returning costumer is one who believes he gets good value for money (even when it involves financial domination).
I do hope Ceara will do a self examination, so at least other potential costumers will be able to her service.
Yonatan
Re: The truth about this blog
Welcome back Yonatan! I knew you couldn’t stay away. Please feel free to tell everyone what I waste of money I am after years of spending thousands on me.
Re: The truth about this blog
It took me a few years and a few thousonds of dollars to understand what I wrote, I know it’s hard for you to believe this but I’m not back, I am far away from spending another cent on you. I prefer spending money on real dommes, and I’m sure many of your ex costumers feal the same.
Re: The truth about this blog
Oh yeah, you’re not back at all. You just read my blog daily, comment, and check back frequently to see if I’ve replied…. So very far away.
Re: The truth about this blog
He’s so far wrapped up in your web Miss Ceara…he doesn’t even realize he’s done for lol. How does that expression go about protesting too much? Say this for him at least he has great taste.
Re: The truth about this blog
I double and agree to what you guys said. Ceara is of type ONLY looking for quick money who has absolutely no idea what real domination and bdsm is about. She thinks being a bitch and asking for money is being a domme! So so wrong! I have had sessions with REAL dommes which I can’t ever forget and am so proud of and on the other side, I had a session with her a while ago which was absolutely ridiculous. So, I can completely see the difference. Bottom line: if you are looking for someone who actually has an idea what being a domme is about, Ceara is far from being that person. Not even worth a penny.
Re: The truth about this blog
Ok… I am very angry at Ceara after the last session with her but the truth is she is the hottest sexiest woman I’ve seen in my life and there isn’t an hour that pasts in my life that I don’t think of her. All I want is her to like me after spending thousonds of dollors on her…
I’m sorry for what I wrote before. There is no escape from this unbelievable goddess
Yonatan
Re: The truth about this blog
Check your email
Re: The truth about this blog
Yes, she is hot no doubt. If she wasn’t, I would go for a session with her! But being hot is not being a DOMME. Again, I think she is just looking for quick money and that is all she is about.
Re: The truth about this blog
First of all, to claim that all Miss Ceara does is take your money is ridiculous. Am I to assume you haven’t watched any of her clips? Second, from what I know of Miss Ceara from following her on twitter and visiting her various links, she is very up front about what she offers and expects. What more can a submissive ask? And finally, on a lighter note, I was going to let it slide the first time, but really…each time you referred to yourself as Miss Ceara’s COSTUMER I felt the need to thank you growing as she does look quite stunning in the COSTUMES you’ve selected for her 😉
Re: The truth about this blog
I agree that it doesn’t make sense to say that Princess Ceara doesn’t provide value for your money. I recently purchased a custom clip, and despite the fact that she already had my money, she obviously put a lot of thought and creativity into making it the best clip that she could. (“Happy Birthday, Johnny”). That’s the epitome of providing good value.
A few years ago, I visited a tiger sanctuary in Thailand. Before entering, I had to read and sign a waiver stating that I understood what I was about to get into and that if I didn’t behave, (as the monks who cared for the tigers suggested) I could be injured or die.
Shame these nimrods aren’t required to read and sign a waiver stating they understand everything that you’ve mentioned here (and in the other 2 educational posts) before engaging with any and every online FinDomme. Double shame we don’t have the ability to turn ourselves into tigers to maul and eat the offending parties.
A few years ago, I visited a tiger sanctuary in Thailand. Before entering, I had to read and sign a waiver stating that I understood what I was about to get into and that if I didn’t behave, (as the monks who cared for the tigers suggested) I could be injured or die.
Shame these nimrods aren’t required to read and sign a waiver stating they understand everything that you’ve mentioned here (and in the other 2 educational posts) before engaging with any and every online FinDomme. Double shame we don’t have the ability to turn ourselves into tigers to maul and eat the offending parties.
Hear Hear!
I love how the wannabe slaves wave their cash around or announce how much they can spend, thinking that is a way to top from the bottom. The truth is their money is not needed. I just enjoy taking it. Most are lying when they announce big dollar amounts anyway.
I’ll bet most “slaves” will just skim through this and still do every single “don’t” that you listed.
Hear Hear!
I love how the wannabe slaves wave their cash around or announce how much they can spend, thinking that is a way to top from the bottom. The truth is their money is not needed. I just enjoy taking it. Most are lying when they announce big dollar amounts anyway.
I’ll bet most “slaves” will just skim through this and still do every single “don’t” that you listed.
Consistently brilliant and astute insight into the mind. Your fascination results in a great deal of sensitivity, and you put that to very productive use. Wisdom belying age – can’t wait to see what your mind is making five, ten years from now.
Lets just hope I use my power for good.
Evil is so ubiquitous these days, using power for good is the devious choice.
Consistently brilliant and astute insight into the mind. Your fascination results in a great deal of sensitivity, and you put that to very productive use. Wisdom belying age – can’t wait to see what your mind is making five, ten years from now.
Lets just hope I use my power for good.
Evil is so ubiquitous these days, using power for good is the devious choice.
Some Observations
I am sympathetic to the plight of Dommes such as Ceara who have to deal with a lot of crap; However, I think that there are some obvious points that haven’t been raised. The truth is that there ARE a lot of domes that encourage customers to contact them before a session to ask any questions, give them their role play fantasy etc. I don’t think that this is a question of what a generic set of rules are, I think that as with any other business, it’s a common-sense matter of what’s appropriate in what circumstances. Princess Ceara and most of the Dommes commenting here are at the top of the food chain – They make more money than the average Domme and are able to capitalize their time. Dommes that are successful but not AS successful are willing to put more effort into securing new customers – It’s not a matter of one way being right or wrong, both are choosing the option that is right for them.
There are in fact a lot of Dommes that have steady customers that they email frequently and even chat with for a few minutes when they’re not being paid for a session. Their reasoning is that this customer is paying them X thousands of dollars a year, they want the experience of having a full time Mistress but can’t afford a phone session every day, so brushing off one or two sentences a day is part of the business model. X Thousands of dollars per year for phone sessions and some emails throughout the week (or even a few minutes of chatting online). THE single best piece of advice is simply to read the Domme’s full profile and listing – You can usually tell what type of Domme the person is and what you can get for your money. You can tell from reading any 3 paragraphs from Ceara that she doesn’t do this – which is fine, but again it’s not a matter of violating a universal law of D/S – It’s sort of like someone not realizing the difference between Mcdonalds and a nicer restaurant and then a 5 star restaurant.
It is also worth pointing out that some of the pet peeves of many Dommes are at least as much attributable to the actions of other Dommes, not just idiot subs. Niteflirt is full of listings where the Mistress states “When you call me, you do what I want – no exceptions. You are here to please me, not me please you”. Then you read the feed back, and you see that half the callers who leave 5 star feedback had a complex role-play fantasy that the Mistress fulfilled to perfection. I never understood why these Mistresses can’t just be more up front about the fact that they cater to the customer’s fantasies -But with so many Mistresses like that out there, you can’t place all of the blame on subs just idiotically ignoring what the Mistress says in her listing. It’s obvious that many of the Mistresses themselves regard their description as incidental to the service they offer ( I know it sounds weird when you put it like that, but how else can you put it?)
Re: Some Observations
Whether or not some Dommes are more willing to work off the clock is irrelevant. This is advice for those who want to be the type of sub that Dommes favor. Believe it or not, I do regularly interact with certain subs beyond what they pay for. Of course thats rare because most guys don’t make themselves very likable. If subs want to get away with taking more and giving less, so be it, the opportunities are out there. But for those who strive to be well liked and less of a burden or those who want to capture the attention of busy and popular Domme who is in high demand, they’d be wise to read this.
Re: Some Observations
The only piece I would add is this is the type of subs FINDOMS favor. Maybe that is implied because pretty much every “domme” you refer to agreeing with you is a FINDOM.
But to the newbie subs cruising around, there is a whole big world of BDSM and fetish out there where the Dommes will talk to you without a “tribute” that are truly interested in the lifestyle and finding a good sub or slave not for the money but the pleasure they derive from the power exchange and service they recieve.
Money does not equal being a good slave, it equals being a good pay pig or money slave. Two completely differnt animals.
Re: Some Observations
Wrong. I almost never practice financial domination. Many of the Dommes who’ve commented here are not findoms. This is advice for dealing with professionals. Every professional expects to get paid whether they genuinely appreciate the lifestyle or not. Once again you’ve missed the point entirely. This entry has nothing to do with being a “good slave,” its about being the type of customer that professionals prefer.
Re: Some Observations
Oh thats right its a business. The first rule of business is the customer is always right.
Re: Some Observations
Actually the first rule of business is to make money. But that’s beside the point. Once again, this is a tutorial on how to be a likable customer, not how to run a business. If you don’t want the advice, you don’t have to take it.
Some Observations
I am sympathetic to the plight of Dommes such as Ceara who have to deal with a lot of crap; However, I think that there are some obvious points that haven’t been raised. The truth is that there ARE a lot of domes that encourage customers to contact them before a session to ask any questions, give them their role play fantasy etc. I don’t think that this is a question of what a generic set of rules are, I think that as with any other business, it’s a common-sense matter of what’s appropriate in what circumstances. Princess Ceara and most of the Dommes commenting here are at the top of the food chain – They make more money than the average Domme and are able to capitalize their time. Dommes that are successful but not AS successful are willing to put more effort into securing new customers – It’s not a matter of one way being right or wrong, both are choosing the option that is right for them.
There are in fact a lot of Dommes that have steady customers that they email frequently and even chat with for a few minutes when they’re not being paid for a session. Their reasoning is that this customer is paying them X thousands of dollars a year, they want the experience of having a full time Mistress but can’t afford a phone session every day, so brushing off one or two sentences a day is part of the business model. X Thousands of dollars per year for phone sessions and some emails throughout the week (or even a few minutes of chatting online). THE single best piece of advice is simply to read the Domme’s full profile and listing – You can usually tell what type of Domme the person is and what you can get for your money. You can tell from reading any 3 paragraphs from Ceara that she doesn’t do this – which is fine, but again it’s not a matter of violating a universal law of D/S – It’s sort of like someone not realizing the difference between Mcdonalds and a nicer restaurant and then a 5 star restaurant.
It is also worth pointing out that some of the pet peeves of many Dommes are at least as much attributable to the actions of other Dommes, not just idiot subs. Niteflirt is full of listings where the Mistress states “When you call me, you do what I want – no exceptions. You are here to please me, not me please you”. Then you read the feed back, and you see that half the callers who leave 5 star feedback had a complex role-play fantasy that the Mistress fulfilled to perfection. I never understood why these Mistresses can’t just be more up front about the fact that they cater to the customer’s fantasies -But with so many Mistresses like that out there, you can’t place all of the blame on subs just idiotically ignoring what the Mistress says in her listing. It’s obvious that many of the Mistresses themselves regard their description as incidental to the service they offer ( I know it sounds weird when you put it like that, but how else can you put it?)
Re: Some Observations
Whether or not some Dommes are more willing to work off the clock is irrelevant. This is advice for those who want to be the type of sub that Dommes favor. Believe it or not, I do regularly interact with certain subs beyond what they pay for. Of course thats rare because most guys don’t make themselves very likable. If subs want to get away with taking more and giving less, so be it, the opportunities are out there. But for those who strive to be well liked and less of a burden or those who want to capture the attention of busy and popular Domme who is in high demand, they’d be wise to read this.
Re: Some Observations
The only piece I would add is this is the type of subs FINDOMS favor. Maybe that is implied because pretty much every “domme” you refer to agreeing with you is a FINDOM.
But to the newbie subs cruising around, there is a whole big world of BDSM and fetish out there where the Dommes will talk to you without a “tribute” that are truly interested in the lifestyle and finding a good sub or slave not for the money but the pleasure they derive from the power exchange and service they recieve.
Money does not equal being a good slave, it equals being a good pay pig or money slave. Two completely differnt animals.
Re: Some Observations
Wrong. I almost never practice financial domination. Many of the Dommes who’ve commented here are not findoms. This is advice for dealing with professionals. Every professional expects to get paid whether they genuinely appreciate the lifestyle or not. Once again you’ve missed the point entirely. This entry has nothing to do with being a “good slave,” its about being the type of customer that professionals prefer.
Re: Some Observations
Oh thats right its a business. The first rule of business is the customer is always right.
Re: Some Observations
Actually the first rule of business is to make money. But that’s beside the point. Once again, this is a tutorial on how to be a likable customer, not how to run a business. If you don’t want the advice, you don’t have to take it.
RE: How to have a fabulous session
Excellent post Princess Ceara; it is a shame that You had to take Your Valuable time to tell guys what should simply be common sense to them already. This is especially true for a real sub should never have to be reminded of anything that You mentioned in Your post.
You post should be beneficial to All wanna-be subs and All Dommes. Thank You for posting it Princess Ceara.
An Admirer,
billy
RE: How to have a fabulous session
Excellent post Princess Ceara; it is a shame that You had to take Your Valuable time to tell guys what should simply be common sense to them already. This is especially true for a real sub should never have to be reminded of anything that You mentioned in Your post.
You post should be beneficial to All wanna-be subs and All Dommes. Thank You for posting it Princess Ceara.
An Admirer,
billy
johan
Quite funny reading some guys complaining that Princess Ceara is only interested in money.
I know I´ve read that stated very clearly by herself in her website and elsewhere “the only thing that matters are your money, if you don´t have any I wouldn´t care”. It´s a very honest declaration and for that she must be admired. No bullshitting, no lies to get men interested……Sorry Princess I know you don´t see alla your admirers as men….just losers, freaks or something….
Princess Ceara is vey honest about being greedy and money-hungry and if you think that´s wrong you should look elsewhere.
Ceara of course is an outstanding beauty and sexy woman.But also she is obviously more honest than most dommes and that way she gets lots of slaves caught in her web.
Re:Princess Ceara Lynch
It is uncanny – learning how PCL’s spiritual Mother and Grandmother are NOW doing ONE can clearly see the willfulness of man to deny aging and to accept ANY instructions to masturbate from a Beautiful Young and fertile beauty. It is as if one believes that ONLY She is worthy of YOUR/MY seed and under Her exact terms.
Like PCL has said elsewhere – there is ZERO chance of HER leaving this STREAM until She is not able to COMPLETELY control the flow of $ and Semen – until SHRE ages out of looks/and/or childbearing youth.
SHE IS EXTREMELY COMPELLING – Perfect – and the only hope for someone who seeks her out is to DIE.
johan
Quite funny reading some guys complaining that Princess Ceara is only interested in money.
I know I´ve read that stated very clearly by herself in her website and elsewhere “the only thing that matters are your money, if you don´t have any I wouldn´t care”. It´s a very honest declaration and for that she must be admired. No bullshitting, no lies to get men interested……Sorry Princess I know you don´t see alla your admirers as men….just losers, freaks or something….
Princess Ceara is vey honest about being greedy and money-hungry and if you think that´s wrong you should look elsewhere.
Ceara of course is an outstanding beauty and sexy woman.But also she is obviously more honest than most dommes and that way she gets lots of slaves caught in her web.
Re:Princess Ceara Lynch
It is uncanny – learning how PCL’s spiritual Mother and Grandmother are NOW doing ONE can clearly see the willfulness of man to deny aging and to accept ANY instructions to masturbate from a Beautiful Young and fertile beauty. It is as if one believes that ONLY She is worthy of YOUR/MY seed and under Her exact terms.
Like PCL has said elsewhere – there is ZERO chance of HER leaving this STREAM until She is not able to COMPLETELY control the flow of $ and Semen – until SHRE ages out of looks/and/or childbearing youth.
SHE IS EXTREMELY COMPELLING – Perfect – and the only hope for someone who seeks her out is to DIE.
sorry for OT
Sorry for OT, but you really should do something about that crazy, blinking banner in your sidebar. I nearly swallowed my tongue while trying to read your article.
Best –
Re: sorry for OT
Oh good, its doing its job.
it goes without saying
that i must say You’ve done it again,
the spinning flashing spots are perfectly designed
what did little i expect from U?
the most gorgeous and brilliant young domme on the
planet Interweb – stepping up to World Domination smartly
and with no rush or sweat
sorry for OT
Sorry for OT, but you really should do something about that crazy, blinking banner in your sidebar. I nearly swallowed my tongue while trying to read your article.
Best –
Re: sorry for OT
Oh good, its doing its job.
it goes without saying
that i must say You’ve done it again,
the spinning flashing spots are perfectly designed
what did little i expect from U?
the most gorgeous and brilliant young domme on the
planet Interweb – stepping up to World Domination smartly
and with no rush or sweat
Wait what?
Ok, I don’t get it. Princess Ceara is actually playing nice and giving subs a bit of fantastic advice, and people are ripping her to shreds. I’m more of a r/t sub, but this is actually the stuff I can use in r/t!! I follow Princess Ceara casually because she’s gorgeous and sadistic, but also really smart. She’s correct in the fact that no one seeks out a mistress without wanting at least something from them, there’s always a driving force.
Synergy is what it takes, despite the fact you acknowledge she’s your master, it’s a two way street.
I really just wanted to say thanks to Princess Ceara for the post, I found it fucking awesome 🙂
~Raven
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Wait what?
Ok, I don’t get it. Princess Ceara is actually playing nice and giving subs a bit of fantastic advice, and people are ripping her to shreds. I’m more of a r/t sub, but this is actually the stuff I can use in r/t!! I follow Princess Ceara casually because she’s gorgeous and sadistic, but also really smart. She’s correct in the fact that no one seeks out a mistress without wanting at least something from them, there’s always a driving force.
Synergy is what it takes, despite the fact you acknowledge she’s your master, it’s a two way street.
I really just wanted to say thanks to Princess Ceara for the post, I found it fucking awesome 🙂
~Raven
Wait what?
Ok, I don’t get it. Princess Ceara is actually playing nice and giving subs a bit of fantastic advice, and people are ripping her to shreds. I’m more of a r/t sub, but this is actually the stuff I can use in r/t!! I follow Princess Ceara casually because she’s gorgeous and sadistic, but also really smart. She’s correct in the fact that no one seeks out a mistress without wanting at least something from them, there’s always a driving force.
Synergy is what it takes, despite the fact you acknowledge she’s your master, it’s a two way street.
I really just wanted to say thanks to Princess Ceara for the post, I found it fucking awesome 🙂
~Raven
Wait what?
Ok, I don’t get it. Princess Ceara is actually playing nice and giving subs a bit of fantastic advice, and people are ripping her to shreds. I’m more of a r/t sub, but this is actually the stuff I can use in r/t!! I follow Princess Ceara casually because she’s gorgeous and sadistic, but also really smart. She’s correct in the fact that no one seeks out a mistress without wanting at least something from them, there’s always a driving force.
Synergy is what it takes, despite the fact you acknowledge she’s your master, it’s a two way street.
I really just wanted to say thanks to Princess Ceara for the post, I found it fucking awesome 🙂
~Raven
Wait what?
Ok, I don’t get it. Princess Ceara is actually playing nice and giving subs a bit of fantastic advice, and people are ripping her to shreds. I’m more of a r/t sub, but this is actually the stuff I can use in r/t!! I follow Princess Ceara casually because she’s gorgeous and sadistic, but also really smart. She’s correct in the fact that no one seeks out a mistress without wanting at least something from them, there’s always a driving force.
Synergy is what it takes, despite the fact you acknowledge she’s your master, it’s a two way street.
I really just wanted to say thanks to Princess Ceara for the post, I found it fucking awesome 🙂
~Raven
Wait what?
Ok, I don’t get it. Princess Ceara is actually playing nice and giving subs a bit of fantastic advice, and people are ripping her to shreds. I’m more of a r/t sub, but this is actually the stuff I can use in r/t!! I follow Princess Ceara casually because she’s gorgeous and sadistic, but also really smart. She’s correct in the fact that no one seeks out a mistress without wanting at least something from them, there’s always a driving force.
Synergy is what it takes, despite the fact you acknowledge she’s your master, it’s a two way street.
I really just wanted to say thanks to Princess Ceara for the post, I found it fucking awesome 🙂
~Raven
Wait what?
Ok, I don’t get it. Princess Ceara is actually playing nice and giving subs a bit of fantastic advice, and people are ripping her to shreds. I’m more of a r/t sub, but this is actually the stuff I can use in r/t!! I follow Princess Ceara casually because she’s gorgeous and sadistic, but also really smart. She’s correct in the fact that no one seeks out a mistress without wanting at least something from them, there’s always a driving force.
Synergy is what it takes, despite the fact you acknowledge she’s your master, it’s a two way street.
I really just wanted to say thanks to Princess Ceara for the post, I found it fucking awesome 🙂
~Raven
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Re: Wait what?
I definitely got more positive responses to this than not. The nay sayers just tend to be more vocal…
Wait what?
Ok, I don’t get it. Princess Ceara is actually playing nice and giving subs a bit of fantastic advice, and people are ripping her to shreds. I’m more of a r/t sub, but this is actually the stuff I can use in r/t!! I follow Princess Ceara casually because she’s gorgeous and sadistic, but also really smart. She’s correct in the fact that no one seeks out a mistress without wanting at least something from them, there’s always a driving force.
Synergy is what it takes, despite the fact you acknowledge she’s your master, it’s a two way street.
I really just wanted to say thanks to Princess Ceara for the post, I found it fucking awesome 🙂
~Raven
Wait what?
Ok, I don’t get it. Princess Ceara is actually playing nice and giving subs a bit of fantastic advice, and people are ripping her to shreds. I’m more of a r/t sub, but this is actually the stuff I can use in r/t!! I follow Princess Ceara casually because she’s gorgeous and sadistic, but also really smart. She’s correct in the fact that no one seeks out a mistress without wanting at least something from them, there’s always a driving force.
Synergy is what it takes, despite the fact you acknowledge she’s your master, it’s a two way street.
I really just wanted to say thanks to Princess Ceara for the post, I found it fucking awesome 🙂
~Raven
Wait what?
Ok, I don’t get it. Princess Ceara is actually playing nice and giving subs a bit of fantastic advice, and people are ripping her to shreds. I’m more of a r/t sub, but this is actually the stuff I can use in r/t!! I follow Princess Ceara casually because she’s gorgeous and sadistic, but also really smart. She’s correct in the fact that no one seeks out a mistress without wanting at least something from them, there’s always a driving force.
Synergy is what it takes, despite the fact you acknowledge she’s your master, it’s a two way street.
I really just wanted to say thanks to Princess Ceara for the post, I found it fucking awesome 🙂
~Raven
Wait what?
Ok, I don’t get it. Princess Ceara is actually playing nice and giving subs a bit of fantastic advice, and people are ripping her to shreds. I’m more of a r/t sub, but this is actually the stuff I can use in r/t!! I follow Princess Ceara casually because she’s gorgeous and sadistic, but also really smart. She’s correct in the fact that no one seeks out a mistress without wanting at least something from them, there’s always a driving force.
Synergy is what it takes, despite the fact you acknowledge she’s your master, it’s a two way street.
I really just wanted to say thanks to Princess Ceara for the post, I found it fucking awesome 🙂
~Raven
Wait what?
Ok, I don’t get it. Princess Ceara is actually playing nice and giving subs a bit of fantastic advice, and people are ripping her to shreds. I’m more of a r/t sub, but this is actually the stuff I can use in r/t!! I follow Princess Ceara casually because she’s gorgeous and sadistic, but also really smart. She’s correct in the fact that no one seeks out a mistress without wanting at least something from them, there’s always a driving force.
Synergy is what it takes, despite the fact you acknowledge she’s your master, it’s a two way street.
I really just wanted to say thanks to Princess Ceara for the post, I found it fucking awesome 🙂
~Raven
I’m a black alpha male I don’t chase sweat or stalk any woman because you don’t mean shit when you leave this this earth plus there are a million other beautiful women on this planet to much to waste time chasing one I have a foot fetish I came here to see the feet not into all the other stuff the gangster in me wouldn’t permit me to plus I know you make money you said it doesn’t impress you well you must be a millionaire already cuz I don’t know anyone who’s turning down a million cash if it was waived in your face I wouldn’t drop that on a woman if you do your a looser and you get no pussy big fan of the feet thought peace